Zoe Zane your on-line saxpert
e-Book #1
How to have a Better Relationship
Zoe's experience: my 20 years for personal improvement after I left the Mormon church.
Experience is very saxy!
I 'm 59 years old, had seven children, graduated from the college of BYU with honors,
and studied sex workers for over 20 years.
First you gotta take responsibility for your life. It begins with you not the other person. The victim mode is outdated and does not serve you, not even one sec ton. Think about all the times you hurt and your held on.
All those moments, days, weeks, months and years. Many of us have accepted the stats quo,
Ya da, ya da, that is life and that is how it is to be, and it sucks to endure FOREVER on the victim channel. I am such a fantastic martyr. Are you thinking? How about all that crappy attention not to mention what it does to your insides plus getting all that attention for being down OR not getting any attention for people who can't stand you. What your get when you endure, is the suffering award. You can have it.
Like no one cares or even notices me. Bull shit! You are noticed all the time. You are noticed for your eyes looking down to the ground or you are not able to look someone squarely in their eyes. Or is it that you have to put them out or have to be better than everyone else? Are you hiding or a runner or a big shot bulling everyone and everything. The only thing that will make you change is pain. WHAT!!! Bummer more pain, it is painful enough, I'm fucked. That is how our brains work with pain. When it gets to be to painful we can make the choice to DO it different. You have a choice and you are making them all the time, even to be the victim.
Your painful life: I hope it has been way out there in the cosmos. You are so lucky. Really!
Number one: You are the creator of your entire life. WHAT! That hurts, how could I do that to myself. Remember this and be kind to yourself, when growing up, about age 7, your were the biggest most glorious sponge on the planet. Soaking, slurping up everything like Neo in the Matrix movie. Yes, and your were hungry for it all. You gathered up information on how to be human. Some of this information was not to great, like you can not have friends or no one likes YOU! How could anyone like you anyway. You are worthless and a loser
What runs most of us is shame, fear and guilt. I will talk about the 3 evils later.
Today here is an exercise you can practice. Whenever something comes your way and it does not make you happy DON'T DO IT. Instead of falling into the trap of victim be a leader for yourself, SMILE even if it hurts like hell. The smile on your face will change the internal chemistry of your entire body.
Look for anything in your life to be thankful for. DO it on a daily basis, write down 200 for that day.
See what happens. Just do 5 a day, watch your moods or emotions OR how your feel!
Experience how you can make your life better.
You are the power person for yourself.
In the morning, look at yourself right into your eyes and say, "I am damn good!"
Just a note, more about Zoe Zane, your on-line saxpert: My honors as a victim. I was molested by a family member with extreme low self esteem/no identity, overcoming anorexia/bulimia(self-hatred),
my first born child was born deformed living 2 1/2 years bedridden in a foster home, I married a Mormon bishop that is gay, gave birth to 7 single births, bedridden and almost died from lack of love and negativity. Do you think I might know what I am writing about and lived to tell you how to do it? Yes! Your damn right.
Throw cream pies, great for your health! Makes everyone laugh.